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What Actually Matters

11/28/2023

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Had a very deep discussion with a professional educator whom I admire* (she wants to be called a “professional educator” as opposed to a “teacher” for reasons upon which I shall not elaborate here) regarding what actually matters in our jobs. 

I was sort of moaning and groaning and stuff, being widdershins and uneasy about the State of Things in Public Education (one must use capital letters to give it the proper gravity, dontcha know) when this professional educator said this:

“Don’t do the stuff that doesn’t matter.”

What elegant directness! Even better than Thoreau’s “our life is frittered away by detail. Simplify, simplify, simplify! I say, let your affairs be as two or three, and not a hundred or a thousand; instead of a million count half a dozen, and keep your accounts on your thumbnail.” 

Oh, and lest you think this professional educator was speaking metaphorically, let me assure you she was not. When it came to administrative requirements (filling out forms sent to her, answering communications, completing bureaucratic necessities, et. al.) she simply…doesn’t do them. Not quite to the level of Peter Gibbons in Mike Judge’s Office Space, but still. It’s not that this professional educator is being ornery (though she can indeed be that in the most lovable and enticing way possible) as much as her deciding what is and is not important. And to her, if something isn’t good for her students, then she sees no need to do it. She’s not out to buck the system so much as only allow the system to function when it helps her do what she is trying to do. If putting a cover sheet on her TPS reports isn’t going to help a student read, then she sees no reason to do it. So she doesn’t. She figures that if the System really wanted her to do something, it will remind her over and over and demand she do it, at which point she’ll comply if only to remove the distraction.

There’s something refreshing in that approach to administrative needs. A school needs to function smoothly, sure. We need hall passes so campus security can identify who should and should not be out of class so they can get kids back into your room if they’re not supposed to be out of it. But do we need a sign-in sheet for the tutorial session we’re running before school starts? How does that sheet help me teach reading? When my school district asks me to watch a forty-minute video showing me an example of workplace sexual harassment between two physical plant workers and a box of donuts (yes, that happened) has that been time well-spent?

Many people in this profession talk about weariness. The strange thing is–the best people tend not to talk in disparaging terms about the actual students. The best time we have is when we’re actually teaching a child how to do something. Almost all of them want to learn. They might not want to do the work that’s required for learning (who can blame them?) but ultimately, they’d rather know than not know.

No, the kids are not the problem. And no, in general, parents aren’t, either. I’m not sure what it is. Maybe public school has simply gotten too big, too much of itself. Maybe we’ve taken on too much and are being asked to do more and more that isn’t teaching but which someone somewhere decided was a good idea and should be done.

Teachers are not very good at saying, “that’s not my job.” Even as a type it, I recoil from the notion. No, generally speaking, we’re a bunch of people who want to help and make things better, no matter what it is. Maybe the paradox is that only those who are truly helpers and problem solvers make good teachers, so the very thing that makes us what we are is the same thing that makes us say “more weight” regarding extra duties. And maybe that’s the very thing that will crush us all.

Maybe my professional educator friend has it right. I might amend what I said earlier–”don’t do the stuff that doesn’t matter to kids.” Serving the System is not what we’re here for.

Easier said than done, I’m afraid. I’ll try.

Be seeing you!



*It was my wife, Sue.

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Write What You Don't Know

11/25/2023

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There’s that old adage, “write what you know.” I’m wondering if there should be a sub-adage, “write what you don’t know.” What do I mean by that? I’m glad you asked.

I don’t know what it is to be someone other than me. Pardon the solipsism, but I truly feel this is so. I can imagine, I can sympathize (maybe even sometimes empathize), I can intellectually understand what it must be like to be someone else, but way down deep, I don’t actually know what it is. Hell, there’s times I don’t quite know what it is to be me, so what chance to I have to really know what it means to be someone else?

There’s some school of thought that says every character a writer creates is them in one way or another. I think I understand that school of thought–if I can’t actually be anyone else, then it follows, ipso facto, that anything I create is some expression of me. I get that, but at the same time…I very much want to reject that. Because it’s horribly depressing. It’s sad almost beyond words to think that my universe is ultimately populated by one person. There’s an unbearable feeling of loneliness in that. Solopsism (this belief that only you exist or, as I’m using it, only you yourself can be understood by you) goes beyond feeling disconnected, because that implies there was or can be a connection that is simply not being made. No, this way of thinking leads to the opposite of Donne’s “No Man is an Island” approach to life. So I resist it.

Writing a character that’s not meant to be me is both challenging and rewarding. If I do it right (and by “right,” I mean that the character takes over and writes him-, her-, or themself) then I honestly feel as if I’ve connected not just to this figment of my imagination but somehow breached the barrier between myself and other real people. If I can make an imaginary person be NOT me, then maybe I can crawl around in someone else’s skin and walk around a bit. 

I try very hard to be a good person. Honestly, I think most folks do. We don’t always succeed, and not all of us work as hard at it as we should (recall Oscar Wilde’s quote: “we are all in the gutter, but some of us are looking at the stars”) but I think we’re trying to be good. I also think that fundamentally that process demands seeing other people. It’s kind of like the art of conversation. Conversation is not “I talk, then you make noises with your mouth-hole and when you’re done, it’s my turn again” like a few too many of us seem to think it is. I don’t know what I’m going to say next, because you haven’t said your piece yet. What I say is a product of what you said, and so on. What I do is a product of what you do, right? Reminds me of that trait people say they admire in others–”Oh, I like so-and-so because they don’t care what anyone thinks about them!” Well, that’s a sociopath, right? OF COURSE we should care what others think of us! If I step on your foot, I should care about it and apologize. I realize people mean to say, “the person I admire does not change who they are simply because of popular opinion,” but even THAT is problematic, yes? I grant you, one should not change one’s core beliefs on the whims of TikTok, but on the other hand, one should not refuse to change no matter what, right?
Back to character writing–I know it’s a big controversy now about folks writing genders/races/heritages or what have you that they themselves have not experienced or have no particular claim on. A white (are we capitalizing this? I’m still not sure) cisgendered male writer should not write about a Black gay woman, for example, or so the thinking goes. I’m simplifying, perhaps oversimplifying, but that’s the general gist. Except…how can that possibly be the right approach? I’m not laying claim to a heritage, or a gender, or an identity I don’t myself possess when I write a character that’s not me, and I am certainly not trying to appropriate or colonize or grab someone else’s in service to my own story. I know the argument is something to do with reductionism, but every single artistic expression of ANYTHING is reductive by its very nature, yes? I’m sorry to all my liberal friends–and I consider myself EXTREMELY liberal–but I simply cannot subscribe to the theory that each person can only express themselves AS THEMSELVES.

I go back to that original school of thought: we write ultimately ourselves and no one else. I can’t agree. I just can’t. Maybe I’m not getting something, maybe I’m wrong, but it seems to me the only hope we’ve got is to write what we DON’T know. That’s the only way we can ever hope to know one another, however imperfectly.

And that’s the beginning of goodness.

Be seeing you!

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NaNoWriMo 2023 Begins!

11/2/2023

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This is a day late because yesterday I was writing. I will today also, but I just have time now to write this.

So here we are again. NaNoWriMo 2023. For those who do not know, NaNoWriMo means “National Novel Writing Month” and is put on by a nonprofit organization that…well, let me just quote from their website: “...provides tools, structure, community, and encouragement to help people find their voices, achieve creative goals, and build new worlds — on and off the page.” They are a simply wonderful group of folks who encourage writing year-round, but November is their banner month.

The traditional challenge is as follows: for the month of November, write 50,000 words of a new novel. Now, they have all manner of ways for you to modify that basic challenge to suit your own desires, but at its foundation, that’s the challenge.

The group has a whole bunch of encouragement and tools to help you stay on track, and resources to help you year-round with your writing and the business side of writing as well. I’ve been a member since 2011, and have completed the challenge NINE times in total, the last SEVEN of those consecutive.

Beltrunner II: Aftermath was my 2020 project, so I have one example of a NaNoWriMo project turning into a published work. 

There are numerous articles and opinions on the whole thing, not all of them glowing. Some folks think that we maybe don’t need a bunch of pikers hammering away at typewriters to generate awful writing. Others say that since the challenge is for 50,000 words, the site ends up generating a lot of half-finished novels that people either abandon or worse yet, submit to publishers incomplete. Still others point out, as I did above, that what you end up doing in NaNoWriMo will almost certainly never get published, at least not conventionally.

Finally are the folks who claim that trying to write that much that quickly will inevitably mean that almost all of what’s produced will be terrible. Strangely enough, the NaNoWriMo people themselves don’t disagree. In fact, on one of the NaNoWriMo posters I keep in my classroom, the statement “Make No Mistake: You Will Be Writing a Lot of Crap” is in boldface print.

So then why do this?

I can only answer for myself. It’s a good, simple, external motivator to turbocharge my writing. I write year-round, but do not yet possess the iron discipline to hold myself to absolutely unerring daily writing which produces 1,667 words a day. I have a full-time job, plus many other responsibilities and obligations. Sometimes, they just get in the way. During NaNoWriMo, it’s as if I give myself permission to put my writing on a higher priority. I can honestly say that there is significant overlap between what I do in November and what I can do in other months because of it.

Also, it’s a great way to smash through a block. If I’m blocked on a project (as I have been for some time on my current one) the artificial goals of NaNoWriMo can help me break through those blocks in my Quixotic need to “win” the challenge. In other words, I find it easier to write the crap that will either turn into quality writing, spark another good idea, or even be completely discarded as, well, crap. The point was, however, I broke the block.
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So, even though I’m a day late in this post (but not a day late on NaNoWriMo!) I encourage any of you reading this to dive right in and get to typing! 

Be seeing you!

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